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Please and Thank You

A long time ago, a wise teacher insisted I memorize and practice the following formula: “Please and thank you every time”. It has been very good advice, and I am truly grateful to her for it.

There are no words in the human lexicon that open doors easier and quicker than “Please” and “Thank you”. This is true in life generally, whether the context is social, familial, professional, academic, or whatever, but it is especially true in the spiritual (which, of course, includes, and ultimately is, all the others).

The reason it works is that when we say “Please” or “Thank you”, we open ourselves – by which I mean we let down our defenses and open our heart, even if only for an instant, exposing ourselves to being vulnerable. An open heart is a beautiful thing and easy to love, and so people and animals and other stuff are quick to respond in kind.

By saying “Please” and “Thank you” to an other (be the other a person, a place, a thing, or whatever), we are confessing, “Our relationship is important to me (because I reside in it); I need it, and I am grateful for it”. In doing that, we incur the risk that the response may be, “Oh, yea? So what!” And therefore, too often we fail to say it. Fear of rejection cripples us, and darkens our lives.

The fact is, it does not matter what the response is. All that matters is that, as seekers, we be willing to be open. In order to win, we have to be willing to lose.

Think about it: if our heart is closed, it makes no difference what spiritual practices we undertake; they will not work. Of course, it is not enough simply to say “Please” and “Thank you”. The other practices (whatever they may be) are important, too. But without the former, the latter are a waste of time and energy. In fact, if we fail to express gratitude toward our spiritual practices themselves, they are unlikely to have any meaningful effect, for it is our gratitude (our willingness to be vulnerable, to be open) that empowers them. Of themselves, without our spontaneous, enthusiastic participation, spiritual practices are meaningless gestures.

And consider this: It is not enough to say “Please” and “Thank you” just to folks and conditions we like and that we know like us. To be truly open and willingly vulnerable means saying “Please” and “Thank you” to everyone and everything.

Marcus Tullius Cicero, the Roman philosopher, observed “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.” Surely, all the virtues, to be truly virtuous, reside in an open heart, and so, without an open heart, the others have nowhere to live. And nothing opens a heart like gratitude.

Remember this: It seems to be in the Nature of the Universe that whenever a heart opens, God (Grace) rushes in, and sets up House, the ramifications and the consequences of which are too wonderful to articulate.

Editor’s Note: To read a thread on TZF’s Open Forum addressing aspects of gratitude, please click here.

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